addcoachingDo You Have Difficulty With:

  • Isolation
  • Feeling Lonely
  • Feeling Socially Ill-at-Ease
  • Angry Interactions/Resentments
  • No Support Network
  • Delegation
  • Initiating & Sustaining Friendships
  • Needing To Be "On-Guard"
  • Saying "NO"
  • Jealousy
  • Low Self-Esteem
  • NOT HAVING FUN!

Coaching Can Help!

Some Of The Tools/Systems We'll Offer Are:

  • The Anatomy Of A Relationship
  • Building Healthy Relationships
  • ABC's Of Emotion/Behavior
  • Enneagram of Personality
  • How To Volunteer Successfully
  • Creating a Family of Choice
  • Developing Adult Family Relationships
  • Creating Environments For Success
  • Communications Skills
  • The "How to's" and "When's" For Setting Boundaries
  • How To Have Fun!!

Relationships are all around us whether we are participating actively or not. Being a well-rounded player in relationships is important to our success as:

  • Parents
  • Friends
  • Professionals
  • Co-workers
  • Siblings
  • Partners
  • Team mates
  • And more...

Developing relationship skills takes time and practice and an understanding of roles as well as our part in those roles. In addition, one of the most important aspects of relationships is communication that is clear, concise and respectful. ADD / ADHD relationships coaching assists you in being the mother, father, friend, or co-worker you would choose to be. It is a choice.

Relationship skills demand being present in the relationship in many ways, which is a challenge we often see with our clients. We work with clients who want to change:

  • Zoning out and not hearing what someone is saying
  • Difficulties with memory as the information was not really integrated
  • Being too blunt and/or blurting out words that weren't meant
  • Impulsive behaviors
  • Inconsistent statements and/or behaviors
  • Forgetting to do things you said you would do
  • Being late for dates and/or appointments
  • Writing down appointments wrong
  • Difficulty saying "no"
  • Beng impatient or frustrated frequently
  • Creating clutter that triggers relationship disharmony
  • Being either too intense or not showing much emotion
  • Creating the appearance of not caring or respecting others

ADHD Coaching: What Our Clients Are Saying

“My new house is coming along well. It should be ready by spring... When I move into the new home, my life has progressed in a way that will fit the new home, sort of like a snail growing and needing a new shell... Yes, I now have a full and well-rounded social life!”
Patricia T., Florida
ADD can be an overwhelming condition that affects every facet of life….from personal relationships and careers to the mundane. Over the years I’ve worked very hard to educate myself on my condition, believing that through sheer will and determination I could navigate life’s extra ADD challenges. This proved to be a stressful exercise while only producing mixed results. So with my life in disarray it was my great fortune to find Twila Gates. You will not meet a more understanding and compassionate individual with the talent, know-how and desire to see you succeed. Partnering with her produced measureable gains with every goal we set out to achieve. She helped me lift the burden of frustration which had accumulated over a lifetime with strategies tailored to my specific needs. I will always appreciate that she helped me develop the tools to overcome those challenges as well as embrace the positive aspects of ADD as a gift. Twila is an absolute gem and you will count yourself among the fortunate if you have the opportunity to work with her.
Jonathan P.
"This note comes to say how much I appreciated your support and wisdom as my coach. You were an awesome aspect of my life. I'm not sure what this year has coming ... but whatever it is I am excited and looking forward to "it" ! All in all, I'm looking for good things to happen this year and I still recognize this past year as my "MIRACLE" Year because God provided immensely but most of all with help from him and others like you, Twila – I survived !!! "
Janice M.
“I’m doing really well. My business continues to flourish. One of my goals when I came to you was to make $90,000... Well, this year I made $113,000. I find that amazing. And I owe so much of my success to you, Twila. I have enough work lined up for next year to make that much again, but work 240 hours less! Now that’s even more amazing!
Kelly C.
Twila is a super coach -- attentive, caring, organized and skillful. I worked with Twila for several years and gained the much needed skills to handle numerous drises that I was experiencing after a divorce and in establishing myself in a career. Twila is nonjudgmental, very easy to talk to and insightful. One of the important life skills that I gained from our sessions was learning the difference between discernment and judgment and how to employ these insights in interpersonal relationships. If you are in transition and trying to figure out a new path, Twila will be a tremendous resource and personal advocate.
Sabrina - New York
"Before I worked with Twila I was feeling like life was pretty chaotic. I didn't seem to have a grip on things and I felt like my communication skills were poor. "I wasn't doing a good job of letting co-workers and my partner know what I needed from them. I seemed to be working under a general state of overwhelm. I have worked with Twila for a couple years. For me this has been time and money WELL SPENT. I am much more organized, thoughts and life. Before I couldn't see past the chaos but now I seem to be able to step back from things and see the real issues. I have been able to identify key areas needing attention in my life. I have made a lot of healthy improvements. This was something I didn't seem to be able to do on my own. I have improved my communication skills, personal and professional, and relationships are better. My partner said he has seen a great change in me all for the better. He has seen me grow and better myself and this has encouraged him to do some of his own work. Twila seems genuinely interested in my success as a person."
Kelly J., Washington



"I have always felt like I take two steps forward and four back. Having a coach helps me to keep the steps I take and more. The last two years has been life changing financially, physically and mentally. I look forward to my calls. I can never thank Twila enough for her support and encouragement."
Lori S., Arizona
"I discovered Twila two years ago during the most difficult time of my life. She has been instrumental in assisting me in creating systems and order in my life during a time when I felt completely lost after my husband left and sought full custody of our son. I am not sure how I would have navigated that past few years without Twila there by my side. She is an incredibly talented and intuitive coach, and I highly recommend her. Twila is very gifted in being able to quickly understand "where you are" and where you need support and/or structure. She will take a tailored approach to assisting you where you need help - whether it is regarding the structure of your day/planning and follow through, or how to make certain aspects of your life run smoothly, or understanding your personality type and how to work with it rather than against it. She is able to help you learn how to gain and maintain focus - which is a true blessing if you have ADHD. She is able to help you with how to create and maintain an orderly environment. She is able to help you in defining your values and living life with purpose. She is able to help you with how to effectively organize, plan and manage projects. She will gently help you see where you need help...which can often be in areas you never even knew you needed help! I honestly feel like I cannot do Twila justice with my inadequate attempt to describe what she has done for me. Twila has been instrumental in my life changing for the better in so many ways."
Wendy K.
“Coaching has been a true life changer & saver for me. Most likely the results are going to be different for everyone, as dictated by different situations. For me, this has not only helped my career and college goals become enjoyable and achievable, but it has almost essentially helped me to combine all of the important things in my life much more efficiently, so that I have been able to pretty much save the severe degradation of my marriage. ADD/ADHD has, without knowing that it even existed, been an absolute key product of absolute upheaval and chaos in my life. Since I’ve been getting help from Twila, I’m truly realizing what I’ve been missing most all of my life. Needless to say, I would highly encourage you to consider life coaching if it has been recommended, or you think it might possibly be helpful for you. So far so good for me.”
Glen H.
"When I first contacted Twila the "overwhelm" factor in my life was so debilitating that I was unable to perform functions as basic as paying my bills on time. I didn't have a job and had no money coming in. I had just decided to close the business I had been running, or stated more correctly, had been running me for almost five years. This was the fifth career in which I achieved "failure" status. My wife was feeling very insecure, which had a major effect, of course, on our family. At age 46 and just weeks away from turning 47, I was very dejected, to say the least, and sinking fast. That's when I realized I had all the symptoms of ADD, and found coaching.Twila helped me gather my thoughts, decide on the best career course to follow and smooth out relations with my wife and children. She helped me do all this within the span of a few months. I secured a job in which I was able to employ my strengths and achieve harmony and satisfaction for the first time in my life. Within less than two years, my salary has increased more than 50%, I am valued and respected at work, my wife feels much more secure and I am back on track with my family. I have a system for keeping my overwhelm factor in check and am improving my efficiency through use of tools for ADHD. Thank you for helping me find my life."
Alan T.